this morning, i woke up to find that my child had been up before me. with only the light from our christmas tree, he was steadily making christmas cards for his friends and family.
i don’t say this often enough …. “My child has saved my life!” and he does it… every.single.day.
sometimes, it’s the small things. and sometimes… it’s the big things. this morning, his small gesture of making cards and being overly excited about the Christmas holiday at any given point of the day compelled me to tears.
you see… i made the solid decision this year that, (despite my desires, personal need or excitement for the holiday) i would retain the magic of christmas for my child’s sake. because HE still needs Christmas.
We’ve gone all out: three Christmas Trees, Christmas Concerts, the Nutcracker, the Polar Express, Christmas Shopping, Christmas Wrapping, Christmas Music… plays. events… the Elf on the Shelf. Visits with Santa Clause… because… it needed to be overdone for him.
(at least… that’s how i feel)
much of his year has been spent dealing with my brother’s battle with cancer. and then, his passing. so much so that at times, i felt like his childhood at this stage left something to be desired.
so … the solid decision to go big and outrageous for him this year came with much grinding of my teeth. sunken spirit. and strained emotion. when all i felt i wanted to do was sit and cry and cry… and then cry some more. i would look over at him, and realize… his needs were different than mine.
and because of that, i would wipe the silent tears and force myself to smile. to cheer. to believe in something as great as the magic. I realize that putting his needs for normalcy and happiness even when it’s difficult are greater than my desire to reside in loneliness and pain and grief.
the simple truth is…. my child has saved my life.